before
…rather — maybe it’s more accurate to say that a LOT of mental health stuff was wrapped up in the physical part, in much more foundational and fundamental ways than
some of the more surprising ways things have changed have been purely mood-related —
- for one thing,
just nicer. now thati’m i’m not miserable,i’m more generous thani was before, andi resent it less wheni do things for other people. i like kids way more! taking off the gendered pressure thati Must Want Children because Biology makes me a lot more patient and less existentially freaked out by themi’m a better feminist (see title). for pretty much my entire lifei had a really hard time wrapping my head around the idea that people actually like being women, or at least don’t mind it. it’s constrained my life in so many ways! but being out from under the crushing weight of expectation has made me less judgy about peoplei think are doing it wrong, and more willing to see different perspectives, and less disgusted by — okay this is going to possibly sound bad, but —i was pretty horrified by my own breasts and definitely that affected howi thought about other people.